At first glance you can be forgiven for wondering what on earth am I on about, but when we offer to help someone we can’t always expect them to accept even if they truly need the help. What happens when someone crosses your path and they need help, but they are so proud and arrogant, the chances of them accepting any help is remote? Do you still bother to offer to help when you know that offer will be rejected? I faced this dilemma twice in the last several months, and before I offered help I knew both parties would not accept the help, so should I have just not bothered at all? That would seem the sensible solution, for if I know the outcome why waste time and energy?
However, the act of offering to help is in itself a selfless act, and you must do it without karmic considerations. In both cases, the parties concerned were moaning and whining and sought help. I didn’t offer immediately, but I decided to make the offer so at least both parties had the choice. An incarnation is about choice, and a Lightworker offers assistance to create a different path, and a Soul is free to choose assistance or to bask in their pride and learn how to cope with a downfall the hard way. Even with help, there is no guarantee of a successful outcome, but the Soul must learn to accept help, which is a Soul Lesson of humbleness many do not even register. I struggled with this, wanting to be strong and independent, but at times we must accept help and trust others. It can be hard when there is so much deceit in the world and people who play one another, but that’s where intuition comes in, and you should be able to sense genuine intent from one that is malevolent.
When I offered help to a friend, it was only after weeks of hearing the same story over and over again, so I finally asked if she wanted some honest advice. She did, and I gave it to her straight. There was however a third-party that was interfering with things, and I offered to help only because she seemed so desperate. I knew she would say ‘no’ and prefered to resign herself to ‘destiny’, but it was more of a ‘poor me’ situation. However, I made the offer in good faith and if she accepted I would have done what I could to help. I will be honest in that I reluctantly offered to help, only because the friend was partially responsible for the situation, and until they accepted that then a satisfactory resolution was unlikely. She didn’t believe anyone could help her, and that was one of her problems besides the fact she created negative energy by wanting sympathy from others. I gave her a choice, so she had options and made her decision not to have help, and I’m afraid she is learning the very hard way right now despite trying to help.
I was faced with a similar situation a month or so later, and I hesitated to help because I knew one of the joint parties would not want help. They are arrogant and proud, and even though they have been publicly ridiculed they choose not to seek help or redress. I also knew if I was going to help and if they took me up on my offer, then I had to be able to do it properly, and with time constraints I proffered help, but with a lacklustre response. Because the issue was time sensitive, I emailed them to remind them of my offer of help and to let me know if other help had been sought and I wasn’t needed. I was conflicted because I had so many other deadlines, but I made an offer in good faith and was determined to see it through at least.
It took me several hours of my own time to draw up an outline of what to do, and then emailed it to them not expecting much, but my conscience would be clear. At first they were both on board, but one did not like my criticisms (advice) and several hours later chose not to accept any help. The other party was unsure too and tentatively eluded to the fact that I maybe setting her up. I pointed out a few facts that there was nothing for me to gain, and as we had been friends for over a year, it was an insult to be frank. I left it with her, while the other one continues and while she complains of being poorly treated, she does little about it except make things worse for herself. Sometimes you can’t help everyone, and even if you know they will reject your offer of help, that doesn’t mean you should not offer. You must give them a choice, and that’s all you can do.
Do I think those several hours was wasted time? I’ll admit deciding whether to offer to help or not was a burden because I knew they needed help and did not have the know how or resources to go about it. When I had offered help and pressed send, I felt a sense of relief that I had done the right thing, but stated that the choice was theirs to take it or leave it. I could have just forgotten about the initial offer, but I’m not like that and when I offer to help then I will do my utmost if the offer is accepted. What is the lesson here? That even if someone is unlikely to accept help, that doesn’t mean you should not offer because it’s helping them to learn a lesson to accept help and to learn to be grateful and humble. That is why Lightworkers give Souls a chance to learn these lessons, but many fail to see that is an opportunity to evolve as well as to gain support and help. It can be exhausting and mentally challenging to help those who think they don’t need help or that you are being disingenuous, but that is their lesson to learn. A Lightworker can only do so much, and a Soul has freewill to choose their path whether it’s a poor choice or a good one.