One of my greatest challenges when I have a charge, is to explain to them the difference between what they actually need versus what they want. I reflect myself on where I would like to be versus what is actually happening, but can we change things, or should we accept there is a reason why we are in a situation that maybe less than comfortable?
There is no definitive answer, and many of us do have dreams and desires and they can be fulfilled. However, the majority of us at some point will yearn for something we don’t have, but do we actually need it? Perhaps before an incarnation you wanted to learn a specific lesson and that’s why you are in a difficult relationship to learn from it, or you have to change jobs or location unexpectedly? Each challenge helps us to learn specific Soul Lessons.
How much freedom can you have or do you need? In the western world we are fortunate to have many freedoms and choices that those in third world countries or that are ruled by dictators don’t have. Then there is media and peer pressure factors where we are led to believe we need other things, and while they maybe nice, the fact is we don’t really need them.
I have been frustrated and discontented during periods of my life thus far like many. We often dwell on would could have been and compare ourselves to others, even if we do so subconsciously. It’s normal, as long as it passes and you don’t get resentful or angry about it. There is a reluctant acceptance of things; know that there maybe a reason for why, as much as you try some things don’t happen and the more you try, the more faith you lose. I know I have been there, but I didn’t stop believing, but I stopped trying too hard to change things and looked at what I needed to address first, and why perhaps I had obstacles.
I recall a while back I tried to get a full time job rather than freelancing and I was already over qualified for many positions. I was just tired of pitching and having my three phones on at all hours. I went through a recruitment agency and when I didn’t get the jobs she put me forward for, she was shocked because I was the best candidate by far and ticked all the boxes and more. That was before I ‘awoke’ fully and I was putting it off, so maybe that was the reason? After I had accepted my awakening I did get a contract job a year or so later after a difficult year of living on faith, where they offered me a full-time position, but I turned it down because by then I knew there were other things I needed to do.
At one point I craved financial and job security and when it was offered I turned it down, even though I loved the people and the office was a 5 minute walk from my house. What more could I have asked for? If it had been offered six months beforehand, perhaps my answer would have been very different. Yet, a week before I left, the company announced it was getting bought out and people were worried as that meant possible job losses and changes. Perhaps it was best I hadn’t accepted the job as the months after I discovered there had been reshuffles, and a few people had opted to leave of their own accord.
I used to say to Spirit, if they wanted me on this path they needed to throw me a bone and help me out, and it wasn’t instant at all, and then sometimes there was nothing. After a planned contract job that would last several months fell through very last minute, I spent a week of trying to find work even temporary jobs that led to nothing until I got a voicemail asking if I wanted to help out in the office for a couple of weeks. Sometimes Spirit can come through, or maybe that was just luck? It was crucial at that stage that Spirit ‘prove’ to me that they wanted me on the path and were guiding me. If nothing had happened, then it is unlikely I would have had this blog.
If I had stayed and taken the job there are so many people who I encountered afterwards that I would not have been able to help, and I didn’t look for them either if that’s what you are thinking. It was a gradual process, and I wasn’t even aware of it until I was in a situation where I was the only person that was there for them. Believe it or not, I tried to find alternative help before I stepped in as I am not one to jump in. Only then did I discover broken down and estranged relationships, buried emotional secrets that held them back, and somehow I was around to help make sense of it. Looking back, I had my own agenda and goals which ended up being sidelined, but I know those I helped did appreciate my coming into their lives at the time.
Where we are and what we choose to do (whether conscious of it or not) depends on the choices and actions of those around us. I wouldn’t have been offered the job if someone hadn’t been leaving, or if I hadn’t made that call to see if any work was available as it was never advertised. Our paths develop all the time with each choice and action we make, and the ones others make and often we don’t know their choices. People don’t consider that their actions may affect the paths of others, but in a Soul Group it does. Now that’s not always a bad thing, but that’s why a Soul Group must have a number of different paths to allow for adjustments, and why sometimes things won’t be resolved and will be left for a subsequent incarnation.
Often when we lose the small luxuries we get used to, we realize we don’t actually need them, but they are nice. What we need and what we desire can differ at various stages of our lives. I hate to see parents spoil their children because it sets them up for disappointment and creates a generation that evolves with an expectation of entitlement. That is dangerous for the ego, Soul, and humanity.
Can we change things if we are not where we want to be? Perhaps, for we all have choices, but with each choice that will affect the paths of others too. What if it doesn’t work out? That’s a chance you will have to take for there are no guarantees, but that path may develop into a far greater path like coming off a slip road onto a freeway. There is also the possibility no matter how hard you try, things won’t change and there maybe a reason for that in that you are needed for a purpose (maybe to guide or help someone later on and you agreed to it) or that you have a Soul Lesson to learn and need to remain where you are. None of this detracts from the frustration and the feeling of being stuck in a rut, but the Soul and its missions are rarely easy to understand or are straightforward.
How do you cope? I won’t lie, as it’s not easy but accepting that there maybe a reason for it (and helping others is priceless) can help ease the frustration. How long will it last (I get asked this so often), but time is a physical place concept which doesn’t always help either. Unlike a plan, there is no time frame, so if you deny or haven’t learned the lesson you wished to learn, then you may stay in a situation until you do. At times we are limited despite what all the motivations speakers say, because while we do have the power to change it is limited too by the Soul Contracts we made before we incarnated.
If you have a job you enjoy, does it matter that you didn’t get the promotion, and are still able to feed yourself and pay the bills? You have what you need and not what you want. A promotion is always nice, but sometimes it can lead to stress, or management are usually the first to go when there are lay offs. A title means very little in the Spiritual Realm, and the wise know that. If you want change then you must open some doors, and choose that path and not necessarily wait for a door to magically open itself. Not all doors will be available, so be prepared for compromise or even disappointment. Life does balance itself out, and it’s never healthy to compare yourself to others. Focus on what’s best for you and what makes you happy rather than what you think will make your life better or happier. You’ll be surprised at how much easier life is when it’s simpler and you realize you don’t need as much as the media make out. Souls survive on priceless things like integrity, kindness, honesty, and doing the right thing for the right reason. That is something you can’t buy on the internet!