Dealing With ‘Sensitive’ People

Some guidance for Lightworkers

What does the term sensitive actually mean? There are people who are called Sensitives which means they are able to see, hear, and feel things from other dimensions, and there are sensitive people who generally can get upset easily or take things the wrong way. The former can also be sensitive people, because we are all human and can get emotional! While some people admit they can be a little sensitive (that usually means they are) how do you cope with them? Should you treat them differently just so as not to upset them? To me that’s wrong because why should they get special treatment? Yes, one can be a little more diplomatic or careful in what and how they say things, but just because someone is sensitive doesn’t mean that everyone must be careful and tread on eggshells around them.

Over time I have learned and am still learning to deal with sensitive people. Sometimes it’s easier to remain quiet, but when I do that I am accused of ignoring them or the sensitive person thinks they have done something to upset me. Honestly, it’s a dilemma; you’re damned if you tell the truth and damned if you keep quiet. Then, even when you are diplomatic you can still get blamed for things out of the blue. It’s a wonder how sensitive people have friends when people can’t be themselves around them. Yet the spiritual side of me hopes to help unearth why they are so sensitive. Usually it stems from a betrayal, being let down, or an unrealistic outlook on things. Many have tunnel vision in the sense they can only see a single solution to their problems even when there are alternative remedies. They simply don’t wish to listen or can comprehend the fact that all is not lost.

It would be cruel to say they are negative cry babies, but they can appear that way because to them nothing ever works out for them, and they think people and the world are always against them. Sensitive people aren’t good with criticism, irony, sarcasm, and in most cases reality. This makes it very difficult to reason with them or to communicate, therefore, you need to speak to them at a level where they may listen and understand. It can be hard work, and there is always the fear of how they will react—will they burst into tears, storm off, hurl abuse at you, or just slam the door in your face. Understandably no one wants to deal with any of that, which is why sensitive people end up in a vicious circle because no one else around theme is brave enough to help them see the truth, and avoid them. Thus they end up getting nowhere because others are afraid to suggest things for fear of being attacked.

The choice is yours as to whether you wish to take on or befriend a sensitive person and help them. Many carry negativity and are pessimistic, and have difficulties understanding what is considered normal behavior. For instance, a friend who had mental health issues was offered help, but she only wanted help from her mother who was several thousand miles away and who had no interest in helping her daughter. Therefore, all my friend would do is cry out that she wanted her mother’s help (basically wanting her approval) and rejected all the help around her from friends and doctors. To be honest it was a bit of a lost case because if the person is unwilling to accept the help that is offered and attacks those who try, then sadly that is wasted energy. Until the person can see that their sensitivity is their downfall and where it stems from, then they will struggle to communicate with the rest of society or resolve their issues.

In another instance while advising a friend on a situation, it was the response and reaction that indicated how sensitive they were. From a well-meaning email outlining how to proceed, I was blamed for upsetting them, making them depressed, and accused of telling them they were at fault. The simple fact was that my friend had made poor choices, which could be construed as their own fault (we all have choices, and they made poor ones even though it was pointed out at the time). Many sensitive people are reluctant to accept responsibility for their actions and choices and prefer to blame others. You cannot teach them to alter their perceptions, as these incidents will reoccur as lessons until they actually learn. Therefore, you can subtly point out that one learns from mistakes and if they learn great, however, some can become hostile and that indicates that they have many more lessons to learn.

You may choose to stay and assist, but if it gets you down then loosen the ties or cut them. It is their lesson after all, and while you maybe learning lessons on how to help others, sensitive people only want answers and results without having to do any of the hard work. Stand up to them for you are not doing anything wrong. If they are wrong say so, but prepared to be thrown out of their house or be sworn at, because sensitive people struggle to accept the truth. Keep your distance, and offer advice only when asked, and do not feel obliged to respond to their requests immediately.

To them everything is an emergency and they have little consideration for others, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t kind. Consider them panicked drama queens where things can get blown out of proportion and they feel they can’t handle things and the world is against them. In time hopefully they will learn to see things clearly and to accept other beliefs and ideas, and not be in the pit of woe is me, which is often the case. Beware of the sensitive person in need as they can cling to you and be demanding; listen, and choose your words and reactions with care, but remain honest and direct because very few people are with them which is why think they are always under attack. They aren’t but in their minds they think they are. Be a friend at a distance, and listen. If you know a response may be interpreted the wrong way, I would advise you to not to respond because this only gives a sensitive person ammunition to blame others. Ultimately you can only help those who wish to listen or accept help—you can always offer, but it is their loss and lesson if they reject the help that is given.

 

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